What is THE Most Important Relationship in Your Life?
You love your partner…
Your friends and family…
But how do you feel about YOU?
Happiness comes from within, so it’s important to be kind to yourself... And nurture the most important relationship of all...
Self-Compassion and Self-Love
The most important relationship that you have in this life is the one that you have with yourself.
Think about it for a moment…
Who do you spend the most time with each and every day? Who is always there for you? Who knows you best?
But let me clarify… This isn’t about being selfish or narcissistic. It’s about forming a healthy bond with yourself so that you are able to meet your needs and be happy.
You see, nourishing a kind and positive relationship with yourself can help you in many ways, which I’ll reveal in just a moment. I’ll also tell you the three keys to a successful self-relationship, and give you easy ways to cultivate a better relationship with yourself.
One of the reasons that people can get into unhelpful relationships with themselves is because their emotions can get out of balance or because they aren’t clear on what they want.
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Let’s start by taking a look at what it means to have a positive relationship with yourself…
The Keys to a Great Relationship with Yourself
The relationship that you have with yourself is a bit different from the relationships that you have with other people. While there are some common themes like kindness and open-mindedness, let’s look at how a few aspects apply specifically to your self-relationship.
I like to focus on three key elements of your relationship with yourself: Mindfulness, Self-Compassion, and Acceptance.
Mindfulness is about becoming aware of yourself… the physical sensations, emotions, thoughts, and judgements inside you. As you become more aware of what you are feeling and thinking, you’re able to notice how you are treating yourself.
With self-compassion, you are kind, gentle, and supportive toward yourself. Once you are mindful of how you speak to yourself and how you treat yourself, you can see if this is an area where you need to implement a change to become kinder toward yourself.
And for those things that you can’t change, you can cultivate a sense of acceptance. But acceptance is more than just internal. With an understanding that humanity is full of flawed, imperfect beings, you can bring more peace to yourself.
While there are things that you want to cultivate, there are also some things that you’ll want to avoid…
Things You Don’t Need for a Positive Relationship with Yourself
There can be things that get in the way of maintaining a loving relationship with oneself.
When you give yourself excuses for your behavior, then you’re telling yourself that you’re not responsible for what you’ve done. And a lack of responsibility just reinforces the belief that you don’t have control over your actions.
In reality, you make choices and you are in control of your life. Accepting these facts will help you see things more clearly so that you can make any necessary changes to help you move toward your goals.
Remember that we all make mistakes... So instead of making excuses, try to learn something from the situation.
Feeling sorry for yourself doesn’t usually do you much good. Pity simply accumulates negative energy, which can get stuck in your body and cause all sorts of problems.
But pity is also a never-ending road. It doesn’t help you find a way to make things better, or create change, it’s just a way to dwell on the past, which you can’t change!
Instead, focus on what you can change. Think of the positives for how you will handle things moving forward.
While giving into your desires for something sweet, or spending all your money on a ‘treat’ might make you feel better momentarily, it’s not a long-term strategy for keeping yourself healthy.
Instead of going overboard, make routine self-care a priority. Taking better care of yourself is a preventative measure that can help you reduce the need to indulge.
Things like getting enough sleep, eating right, and participating in activities that you enjoy are part of a healthy relationship with yourself.
No one is perfect, and the sooner you start to accept that fact, the better. When you remind yourself that you don’t have to be perfect all the time, your attitude toward yourself becomes a bit softer. Remember that everyone makes mistakes, and you are no exception.
Perfectionism goes hand in hand with what is sometimes called “black and white” or “all or nothing” thinking. And this can lead to self judgement, negative self-talk, and other harmful interactions with yourself.
Don’t beat yourself up. Be kind and remember that you are only human.
You see, these negative thoughts can be destructive and cause blockages throughout your energetic system, and that can prevent you from reaching your full potential.
If you want to feel more positive, focused, and energized, then I invite you to take the free Emotional & Mental Balance Test.
This quick and easy test can help you reconnect with the positivity inside yourself so that you can be happier and healthier. Click here to learn more.
Now that you know what things you need to have a great relationship with yourself, let’s talk about why this is so important...
Why You Need To Strengthen Your Relationship with Yourself
There are many reasons to find more self-love and self-compassion. Here are a few of the most important ones…
1. It Affects Your Relationships With Everyone Else
If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect others to love you?
You see, you must first accept yourself and love yourself before you can create meaningful relationships with others.
When you don’t have self-compassion or confidence, your other relationships are fueled by fear, anxiety, or other negative emotions. And that’s not healthy for you or the other person.
Learning to be more kind and loving toward yourself will allow you to become more compassionate toward others. And it will also help you create strong, meaningful relationships.
One of my favorite sayings is, “You can’t fill from an empty cup.” And to me that means that you must first take care of yourself and love yourself before you can share love or take care of others.
It’s a bit like in Reiki Healing, where we ask you to practice healing yourself before you practice healing others.
When you practice being kind to yourself and forgive yourself, you’re better able to do the same with others.
2. It Facilitates Overall Happiness
As you become more compassionate toward yourself, you’re lowering your risk for mental health problems such as depression, anxiety, and stress.
People who have more positive relationships with themselves are also more optimistic, meaning they tend to focus on the positive. And the more positive energy you can bring into your life, the better.
Your Sacral Chakra governs your ability to create and maintain meaningful relationships, both with yourself and with others. But this energy center also controls your emotions.
That means that working on your relationship with yourself can help bring your Sacral Chakra back into balance and increase your positive emotions.
3. It Makes You More Resilient
When you love yourself, you can let go of the need for approval from others. If you’re happy with the way that you are, nothing else matters. The opinions of those around you don’t have to affect you.
And with the the key component of accepting yourself, you are better able to take the necessary steps forward in life.
Your healthy relationship with yourself also allows you to release the need for comparison with others. You’re better able to accept others just as they are in the same way that you’ve come to accept yourself.
So, if you’re ready to take better care of the relationship that you have with yourself, I’ve got a few simple practices that can help get you on the right track.
Tips for More Self-Compassion
The world that we live in today can sometimes make it hard to have self-love and self-compassion. But there are many ways that you can strengthen this bond with yourself.
Here are a few of my favorite ways to nourish my relationship with my body, my mind, and my entire being.
Cultivating a meditation practice gives you time to sit quietly with your thoughts and can also heighten your awareness. And like I mentioned before, awareness is one of the key components to forming a healthy bond with yourself.
Practicing yoga helps to increase your sense of body awareness. It helps you get more in touch with your breath, your thoughts, and your emotions.
Nature helps to put things in perspective, and helps you to slow down for just a moment. Exposing yourself to some greenery can do wonders for your mental health, including giving a boost to your self-esteem.
Start a gratitude journal
When things become tough, there is always something that you can be greatful for. Even if it’s simply that your heart is still beating and you are still alive, focusing on those positive aspects can brighten your entire outlook on life.
This powerful healing technique can help you balance your emotions so that you can find more peace and happiness. But it also helps you understand that you can heal yourself.
We are all born with a natural ability to heal ourselves, and Reiki can help you reconnect with and even strengthen this power.
And an easy way to start working with Reiki is by taking the Emotional & Mental Balance Test. Just answer 11 simple questions to find out if your mental and emotional Aura layers are in need of cleansing.
Click here to download this free test and start on the path to a better relationship with the most important person in your life: yourself.