The 6 Most Common Sources of Emotional Damage

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Many people believe that humans are just physical creatures...

But the truth is that we are not limited to our physical being - we also have a spiritual, emotional, and energetic body. 

So when we try to heal our pains, our methods can not be reduced to treat our physical symptoms alone…

For example, taking ibuprofen or an aspirin may relieve your headache or shoulder ache temporarily, but may do nothing to heal the actual source of your symptoms. 

This is especially the case for emotional trauma or spiritual negativity…

Reiki takes care of this by examining and healing the true cause of the hurting. 

I’ve seen Reiki heal more people than any pill...and most metaphysical healers will agree. 

In short, emotional pain is often the source of one’s physical pain. 

I’ve seen this in numerous cases myself...and there are many modalities to heal and overcome this trauma. One of them is my Emotional and Mental Healing Session, which is designed to do just that. 

If you’ve been feeling as though your emotional burden has been too much...check it out now to heal the root cause of your emotional trauma so that you can live a pain-free live. You can check it out here.

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Of the thousands of cases that I’ve seen, six situations frequently pop up as the main catalysts for emotional trauma (which then turn into physical pain). 

We carry these injuries for the majority of our lives...and most of us have no idea how they’re affecting us. 

In today’s post, I want to show how these six situations cause emotional disturbances and briefly cover how we can overcome them. 

Neglect or Rejection

Neglect or rejection is commonly experienced in our childhood…

...and if we never address it, the pain will never heal. It’s a sad fact that this is probably the number one thing that prevents people from healing. 

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Common examples include neglectful or abusive parents who failed to care or nurture one’s emotional spirit. 

Other situations include broken friendships, when a relationship breaks up, or even when a coworker or acquaintance seems to be avoiding your presence.

These experiences may cause us to lash out in anger or hold that negative emotion in certain Chakras or deep within our energetic field.

Most typically, emotional damage from rejection is held in the Heart and Solar Plexus Chakra.

They may also cause us to feel complete sadness, lower our self-worth, and dampen the color of our Aura. Frequent symptoms may also include tension headaches, poor posture, furrowed brows, and negative self-talk and criticism.

Fortunately, there are many things you can do to fix this damage. 

One of the strategies (besides a healing session) that I like to use with clients includes the Replace-to-Repair Approach. 

For each and every negative thought you may have of yourself, you must give a positive one. 

In example, if you say to yourself, “I am not good enough”, you have to say something like, “my hair looks good.” Your positive thoughts can be as positive or ridiculous as they need to be.

The point is that by focusing on your strengths, positivity, and new directions vs. the neglect you have received, you will desensitize yourself to the pain of both past and future rejection and allow healing to occur.

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Loss & Dramatic Stress

Stress is a natural emotion that results when you lose something important to you, someone that you cared for passes away, or you suffer a traumatic experience (like rejection).

This kind of trauma is extremely difficult to overcome...but it can be done.

The experience of loss can shatter one’s assumptions about the world and force us to retreat inwardly.


Chakras begin to close up and become warped...and our Aura begins to change into a darkish-grey color. 

The shock of loss is like an earthquake - aftershocks are common and it can be tough to repair immediately after such events take place.

To begin the process of healing, make sure to give the event enough to time to pass before trying to search for ways to open up. You may put yourself at risk for being too ambitious and cause more disturbances than are necessary. 

Guilt & Shame

Rejection, loneliness, and loss are painful experiences caused, in part, by our need for strong connections with others. 

However, in guilt, you are the source of your own unhappiness. 

This can be a tough pill to swallow…

...but the majority of all guilt and shame starts from the self. 

Guilt comes as a form of misalignment from one’s moral compass or direction and is commonly experienced in two ways...

Unresolved guilt refers to the feelings left behind when you believe you may not have completely apologized for a wrong you committed against another person even though, in reality, you did all that you could. 


In separation guilt, you feel that you don’t have the right to pursue your own independent life and success because to do so makes others seem flawed in comparison. 

So to overcome need to forgive yourself first

After you’ve forgiven yourself, you need to feel that it’s okay for you to re-engage with your life and go on to enjoy that success you feel so guilty about. 

The people you think you’re being disloyal to or failing may, to your surprise, be the first in line to cheer you on.

Living in the past

Going over and over the unpleasant or disappointing experiences in your life, whether real or imagined, takes its toll on your well-being. 

Just like a scar that you pick at over and over again, it will leave a permanent mark unless you learn how to stop. 

The first step to start living in the present is to realize that other people don’t see the world the same way that you do. 


Overlooking the present

Most people are selfish...and that includes how they view themselves. If you find yourself replaying an event over and over again… need to learn to let go

We often find it difficult to let go because we wish we could have changed things - but the fact is that those events have already taken place and are preventing us from living a full life in the present.

Letting go is one of the many things I emphasize to my students - this will help you unblock clogged Chakras and begin living a refreshed life again.


You can probably see a common thread running through the situations that are most likely to cause pain. 

It’s no surprise then, that failure is one of the main situations that cause this kind of harm. 

We can often feel worthless and useless after failing at a task or a relationship. 

However, if we continue to live in the mindset of failure, we start to live in the past...causing our Chakras to spin out of balance and create physical manifestations of our hurt.

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Whenever I see a client or student suffering from failure, I also tell them to contact their close ones. 

Failure may breed feelings of guilt or lowered self-worth, but speaking to loved ones may help you open up again.

By talking to someone else, you may also help to get the perspective you need so that you can look for a silver lining in the experience of failure. 

This also helps to prevent the next most common situation...

Loneliness or Solitude

The longer you go without relating closely to others, the more difficult it becomes to reestablish contact with new people, or even get back in touch with the old friends you’ve drifted away from. 

This may cause us to believe that no one cares about us - but who is to know that you’re hurting if you never share that with anyone?

If you’re convinced that no one could ever love or care about you as a result of your emotional pain of rejection or neglect, try the Replace-to-Repair method. You are capable of love and being loved. 

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Thinking positive thoughts to yourself can help with this process.

Another great way to combat loneliness is to adopt a pet that you can nurture and grow. Pets are relatively inexpensive, but may provide the support and listening that you need to open yourself up again and begin living a clearer, happier life.

These six situations are not limited to one experience - throughout our entire life span, we may experience these things over and over again. 

The key is to maintain a strong sense of self and make sure that we are prepared for these experiences when they come. 

My Emotional & Mental Healing Session isn’t just for people who need healing...but for people who want to maintain their emotional and psychological fortitude. If this sounds like you, I recommend that you check it out here

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Dave Nelson

Dave Nelson is the creator of Reiki Infinite Healer. Over the last 4 years Dave and his team have helped hundreds of thousands of people improve their wellbeing, recover from illness, connect with their spiritual selves, and learn to heal with the amazing art of Reiki. Dave is a highly sought after healer and teacher, who's work has impacted the lives, health and relationships of individuals and their families in over 200 different countries.

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